I overheard a conversation between two teenagers yesterday. It sounds like a typical conversation. But what really annoyed me is the fact that every sentence that came out from their month contains vulgar or not to nice words. "Eh b*bi la ngko ni". "ko nak makan apa, s**l". "p**t*t mak ngko ahh".
Astaghfirullah. How can they even think to construct such sentences? Mau terasa cikgu Bahasa Melayu kat sekolah. Tak pernah pulak keluar dalam paper SPM ayat-ayat sebegitu. But these conversations are normal among teenagers. Terasa cool kot cakap macam tu. Cool ke? Kalau dah terbiasa cakap macam tu, mau depan mak ayah pun terkeluar ayat-ayat sebegitu. Kalau anak i, mau kena penampar barang dua kerat.
If we were to analyze whats the underlying reasons, it may resulted from the conversations they overheard from the parents. Parents pun cakap macam tu, anak-anak pun ingat biasa la. I always reminded myself not to utter negative words in front of the kids. Kids are like sponge, they absorb but they do not filter.
Influence by the peers and fear of not fitting in, makes these teenagers use those words. It's not u does fit in, its just you chose the wrong friends. So as parents we really need to by Miss Nosy Parker. Know who your kids' friends.
BTW, I sempat sound budak-budak tuh, "Apa la guna ayat-ayat macam tu". Terdiam sekejap. ish ish...budak-budak zaman sekarang!